Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Help Rejecting Complainer

-Have you ever talked with someone who keeps pulling for advice from you but then rejects them all? These problems seem so big! The call lasts for a long time but nothing gets accomplished. The counselor is left feeling frustrated.


What can you do?

-Show concern but not too much concern. Therapeutic Blasaie/non-chalance

-Set limits on time: Do not go longer then 7 minutes. It can be extremely exhausting

-Resist the temptation to give advice

-Stay out of the pull:

The pull comes from a power struggle

It comes from the caller feelings of powerlessness

There is also a feeling of helplessness. This makes us want to help the caller.

Emotional Volitility: the caller may be explosive, or easily frustrated. They may get angry at you. The caller may create a sense of urgency

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